Rowing into a Life of Impact

Grace Rett has truly impacted me!!

I want my lifestyle of PESSCE Wholeness to have impact like Grace Rett has impacted me. A couple of weeks ago while flipping through the channels, I stopped to watch a story on the local afternoon news that really caught my attention about Grace Rett, a student at College of the Holy Cross (aka Holy Cross) in Worcester, MA. As I am focusing on my Physical Life Stream, I am working out daily, including group sessions at my local YMCA. Grace Rett was featured in the news story for setting a World’s Record for Rowing (click to see story), by rowing 62 hours on a rowing machine!! My response was simply, wow!! I had just complained (internally) a few days before about the use of the rowing machine during a workout session. I would always look at that machine and say, what is the point, and NEVER used it!! So, wow, is all I could say!! It caused a shift in my thinking about the rowing machine.  

After seeing this story about Grace, a couple of days later while completing a segment of our work out on a rowing machine, I mentioned to someone in my group that I had just seen a story on the news about a young lady who spent over 63 hours on one of these things!! In my mind prior to seeing that story, I would internally whine about my 4 rounds of 60 seconds during my circuit workouts! However, Grace Rett gave me motivation to pull harder on that rowing machine and to not complain about those weekly short segments. I started thinking, it was all part of me getting to my physical goals that are ahead of me! Row! Row! Row! You’ve got this!!! If she could go for 62 hours, surely, I could go for a few seconds at a time.

Less than two weeks later, while working out at 5:30am at the YMCA, a news story flashes an image of a young lady, who looked familiar. As I struggled through my few minutes on an Elliptical Machine, I then noticed the school’s name below the image, and it said Holy Cross Rowing Team. It was Grace Rett. I asked my trainer, was the story about the young lady who broke the rowing record? Unfortunately, the response was yes, however this same young lady was featured in a very different story. Sadly, Grace Rett was killed in a car crash while in Florida for winter training with her college rowing teammates (click to see story). Six others from the van were seriously injured and hospitalized following the accident that carried eleven student athletes along with their coach. A second van carrying team members was not in the collision, however, they were witness to the accident.

For me to randomly see Grace’s story and find motivation, then to see the story of her untimely death brings tears to my eyes. Grace’s life has had impact. She impacted me!! Someone so far removed from her world yet motivated by her. Some may view this as a small thing or a coincidence, but for me, I see it as her name reflects, grace. God gave me grace to live long enough to get a few more things right in this life and to be impacted by this awesome 21-year-old student athlete. He used Grace Rett as a motivator for me as I am on my personal journey to PESSCE Wholeness. My physical wholeness! An aspect of my journey that I view as so hard at times. Using a rowing machine at moments seemed so unimportant in my physical focus of PESSCE wholeness. But now this World Record Holder for rowing has helped me view it so differently! For me, it’s much bigger than the act of rowing. In my world, this is a demonstration of a life of impact. Wow, this just really is amazing to me! If she motivated me is this way, I can only imagine the impact Grace’s life has had on her family, friends, teammates, and so many others!

Grace Rett will be remembered always by me and so many others. I pray that God gives me opportunity for my life to have impact in a way that will live on and be remembered even in death.

Thank you, Grace Rett!! You have impacted my life forever!! Rest in your now true peace (PESSCE)!

As we continue to introduce the concept of PESSCE (peace) Wholeness, I want to share some foundational thoughts about various areas of focus for the PESSCE model. PESSCE reflects the five life streams: physical, emotional, spiritual, social, career and economic. PESSCE Unlimited offers a model for wholeness supported by lifestyle coaching and guidance for navigating your life streams more effectively. I want to spend a little time discussing the “social” life stream. As you begin to focus on your five life streams, it will be important to give consideration to your “why.” Why you do what you do, who you do it with, who you do it for and why you do what you do when you do what you do? What is your “why” for social media? I’ve heard the current justification some use, “I only use it for marketing.” Okay, that’s fine, but what about the other users? Could it be a way of “muting” your silence? I want to share thoughts to help you assess your “why” as it relates to social media and give you opportunity for consideration of regaining an important component of yourself, your silence. Yep, I want to help you “unmute” your silence!

Has your silence been muted? Odd question, right? Silence in most cases is a chosen behavior. People who are closest to you, the people who really “know” you, often know what your silence means or at minimum know how best to interact with you when you are silent. A rich dynamic that fits within the definition of paralanguage, is your body language. Your silence still speaks through observed body language. Face to face communication allows opportunity for your silence to speak. So, I again ask, has your silence been muted? Have you muted your silence with excess utilization of social media?

The Social Life Stream within the PESSCE model gives consideration to our daily social experiences. Our social life experiences begin the day we are born and are exposed to the human experience outside the womb. Who you are today is often shaped by the social interactions you have had over the course of your life time. When we think of the current state of the Social Life Stream, the focus for many has shifted to social media utilization and less on social experiences. Social experiences hinges on the richest form of communication which is face to face interaction. Social media has changed this key developmental dynamic inherent to humans in how we live our lives.

Because of this shift, we have created a disengaged communication forum that has muted silence for many. Silence is not a bad thing. Face to face communication helps to give silence a voice. Through body language or physical touch, we are able to communicate our silence. Social media has muted the beauty of silence. Social media allows many to hide their silence through each individual’s ability to become whomever they want others to believe them to be if they were not silent. This is one aspect of the façade that plagues social media.

I do understand that some would say that social media platforms give voice to those who feel they have no voice. This isn’t necessary all bad, however, as it relates to muted silence, replacement of silence with social media is a way of hiding a gift that is a part of our human nature. The other extreme related to silence, social media also gives an online megaphone to those who are never silent who maybe should be. Online forums, give them opportunity to spew out that which is unimportant, inaccurate, opinionated, and often times just rude or obnoxious. This too is a form of muting the silence. Because in times that should be silent moments in their own personal life and space, such individuals are loudly speaking on social media platforms. Enough already, be silent!

In order to walk in your PESSCE Wholeness, it will be important to look at your social life stream to identify areas of challenge and opportunity. Your muted silence is just one area of consideration related to social. Unmuting your silence by replacing social media time with face to face time with others, personal reflection time, prayer or meditation time can be transformative for you and those around you. Embrace the silence over dinner with your family versus having your phone out scrolling through social media. It might lead to opportunity for engaging dialogue. I challenge you to reengage with your face-to-face circle of family and friends by letting them hear your silence. It’s okay to be silent and not be on social media. You should also consider spending time in your own quiet space of silence. Enjoy the silence. Will your silence be heard? Yes, by you, those in your circle, and your Higher Power! I dare you, try being silent. Unmute your silence and reclaim your social life experiences with yourself, God and those in your social circles, and less through social media absorption!

When effort is put forth to make positive change in life, there are some days that are just really tough. The PESSCE Wholeness model gives opportunity for assessment and planning to address challenges physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, in your career and finances. IT IS HARD WORK!! But the work has to be done and it has to be done by YOU!! Today during a workout session with my trainer, after sharing some things I’m struggling with, she asked, “what else can I do to help you?” My response was simple, “nothing.” The work has to be done by ME.

The six PESSCE life-stream areas (physical, emotional, spiritual, social, career, economic) are all difficult independently but it is even more challenging when you begin to identify the overlap across the six. Don’t let it overwhelm you. At the end of each difficult day as you do the work, take a deep breath, and lay your head to rest, knowing that a new day, which will be a better day, is coming.

My writing partner and I have written “PESSCE Music” which is all about encouragement and motivation to help you work the PESSCE Wholeness model. One song that we wrote is called “Brand New Day.” Oh, how this song has encouraged me today. Let the lyrics encourage you today as well, if you find yourself trying and nothing is changing, or the challenge seems insurmountable. A part of song says, tomorrow will be a new day and I trust the day will bring to me, joy and peace; that’s all I need!! Tomorrow will be a better day!!

It doesn’t matter the struggle or area of challenge, lay your head to rest after your difficult day and trust that you find your way to your new day. Tomorrow will be a better day!!! Tomorrow you won’t eat those cookies and you will work out; you will not let your emotions cause you to say or do the wrong thing; You will pray and read the Word; you will limit yourself to only positive social interactions; you will be focused at work to get everything done; you will not be wasteful with your money!!

For me, today is my tomorrow, because yesterday I missed the mark, but today has been a better day!! Be encouraged!!

Angela

PESSCE Unlimited

Find your swim lane and know your stroke

I love to swim. I also like to use analogies from swimming in many of the topics that I discuss. Recently someone expressed to me concern with not doing exactly what she thought she would be doing at this point in her life and career. She felt she has always desired to be one thing, but she always finds herself in a different place in her career path but not in a bad way. My reply to her comments/questions reflected the importance of knowing her passion, strengths and key areas of focus. I encouraged her to be comfortable with where she was as long as she was happy and making a difference in the life of others.

So often we find ourselves applying for jobs, interviewing then walk away from the interview saying, “Yes!! I knocked that one out of the park! I will definitely get that job.” Then we don’t get it. We just knew it would be a “good fit” and we just knew we would be hired. Unfortunately, more often than not, it just doesn’t happen. And you are told, “Well, we just don’t think you are a good fit for this job.” Basically, you just don’t quite fit the mold of what they are looking for! If you really stop to think about it, they may very well be correct in their assessment. But not for the reason you may think. There may be something much bigger and better or just more impactful that you really are “suppose” to be doing instead.

Let me give you an example. I have discovered after several failed efforts to obtain a full faculty appointment with different institutions of higher learning, that being a professor is just not what I am supposed to be doing with my life. Same with other higher level leadership roles that fell through. Not everyone is cut out to be a university professor, Senior VP or certain other roles. Being a full time professor may not work but maybe serving as an adjunct faculty teaching evening classes to adults would be a better fit. Or a professional development workshop leader, life coaching, mentor or basically teaching in other formats and settings may be a better fit. Without any hesitancy or discomfort, I can definitely say that is me. I know my strengths and what I am called to do.

A few months ago, I went through a very lengthy process for a faculty appointment at a business college with undergraduate and graduate level degrees. It seemed like a done deal once I completed the full interview process. Much to my surprise, I was ultimately told they were moving forward with another candidate. Same song different verse for me. I have resolved that my incomplete doctoral degree, style and approach to teaching, is not full-time professorship material. I’m more of an inspirational public speaker, you know, a motivator. LOL. That’s what I am and that is what I’m good at. One of my recent workshop participants gave me a “compliment” for holding his attention and actually said congratulations for doing so. It was really funny! He later wrote the following on workshop evaluation, “Angela is one of the best trainers I have ever had! It is very hard to maintain my interest in a subject for more than a few minutes at a time; she was able to keep me on track all day long. She was awesome!!” I appreciate all feedback from participants.

Basically, I know my swim lane and I know my stroke. I love the breast stroke when I swim. I’m not as fast or precise as others in the water, but I swim diligently from one end to the other. Same with my career. I’m going to do what I do in my lane and let others do what they do. You should do the same as well. Focus on your strengths and find that which is a perfect fit for you.

Angela M. Callahan

PESSCE Unlimited, LLC

Love Yourself First

 

As you celebrate the one you love today, be sure to also celebrate YOU! February 14th is the date known worldwide as the day of “love”, and for me there is an important question that comes to mind for your consideration. Do you LOVE YOURSELF? I mean really? The journey to PESSCE Wholeness requires self-love, a true love for yourself. Loving yourself may require you to finally put yourself first. Now, to be clear, I am not saying that you stop or change your lifelong commitment to helping and being considerate of others first. What I am saying is that often times the focus on others is so great that you have little to no focus on yourself. You are lost in the process of uplifting others.

 

Self-love will show up physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, in your career and economically (PESSCE). Love yourself today across your 6 life-streams in some way. Often times self-love is viewed negatively; vanity and selfish. If that is the place you live in daily, then I am not talking to you. I am talking to those of you who are selfless, giving and considerate of others day in and day out. Those of you who would give the shirt off your back if you had to. Those of you who make sure everybody gets a plate of food before you sit down to take one bite. Those of you who keep taking the inconsiderate behavior of others and responding with grace and love. You know who you are! Go love some YOU today! You deserve it! Walk in your PESSCE Wholeness today!!!

 

Happy Valentine’s Day to all!

HEAR THE VOICE OF MY HEART

 

Thank you for helping me have a voice.” These simple words make the foundational concepts of the PESSCE Wholeness Model for Women worth it. I recently spent time supporting a client through a challenging situation with the family of her spouse. For a significant number of years, she has supported her spouse through personal battles with substance abuse and other challenges. She had reached her end point and was ready to give up. She could not keep carrying this burden alone and wanted to engage friends and the in-laws in planning an intervention.

For years, she has had little to no positive interaction with her in-laws in getting her spouse the needed support to gain sobriety and freedom. She has basically been none existent to the family and received much of the backlash for the current state of their loved one. There had never been any acknowledgement of her in any way except negativity.

The PESSCE Lifestyle Coaching sessions started with an opportunity for her to get all of her frustration out to ensure a solid focus on healing and solution setting. This Deep Dive customized coaching approach has allowed the healing and future-state planning to take place. There is a long road ahead for this family, but the vital part of this intervention is giving a woman a voice that comes out of a heart of strength and love. Hearing her heart, validating her strengths, and supporting her desire for healing has given her a voice.

Finding your voice in your own personal situation is a key to your wholeness. PESSCE Unlimited’s Lifestyle Coaching approach helps individuals to find their voice. We listen to your heart and confirm your self-controlled lifestyle decisions! We help you find your way to PESSCE Wholeness!

Angela M. Callahan, PESSCE Unlimited

 

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SELF-CONTROLLED LIFE CHANGE DECISIONS

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Often the decisions to make big life changes come from a place of brokenness, mixed emotions or the perspective of other people. The emotional weight of a situation can cause you to make a premature decision that does not result in the intended outcomes. Having “PESSCE Wholeness” will reflect self-controlled decisions that result in the desired positive outcomes. Your decision is only yours to make and should be from a place of wholeness, not brokenness or the perspective of others. 

 

My PESSCE Wholeness is at the core of every area of my life today. I have done and will continue to do the hard work! From my place of PESSCE Wholeness, I recently made several big decisions in my life with even more coming soon. Some people may say, the decisions I have made should have been made years ago. For me, my decisions were exactly when they were supposed to be made. As part of my personal journey to PESSCE Wholeness, decision making from a self-controlled place was vital. I was broken physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, and economically, until I started to address my whole life concerns in all six life-streams. I am still doing the work, but the hardest part of the work has been done!! There is all goodness ahead of me now!

 

Each person’s timing will be different and your level of tolerance will also be different. You will know when it’s time to address your physical challenges because you will be tired of feeling or looking a certain way. You will know when you must address your emotional issues because you will be sick and tired of being sick and tired. You will know when you have reached your place of brokenness that requires true Spiritual intervention that will take you to your decision place in the right way. The social aspects of your life, including relationships will be viewed differently. You will focus and work hard to address your financial concerns even if it takes years to sort it all out. All of this will come together demonstrating your PESSCE Wholeness. Not perfection or completion, but wholeness. 

 

The social and emotional perspective of others will not impact your self-controlled decisions when you walk in PESSCE. Make your decision, launch the change, walk in your own PESSCE! Other people in your life may see “it” before you see “it”, or they may never see the need for your life change, either way it’s okay. The decision to make the change should be fully your own and in your own timing. You have to make your own decision because you are the only person who has to live your life daily. The decisions that you make must come from you and not from what other people say, think or feel. Go through the process and move forward to your place of PESSCE on your own terms and in your own time. If you haven’t started, maybe it’s time for you to start you’re journey to PESSCE Wholeness!

 

Remember Your Worth; Stop Trying to Prove It!! 

“If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.” ~Unknown

You can hold your own in any conversation. You stand out in a crowded room, shining bright like a diamond. You have educated yourself and built a solid career. You have a faith that can move mountains. Even with your flaws (yes, we all have those too!!), who you are demonstrates strength, value and exceptional confidence! And you show consistent support of those around you. You are blessed and are a blessing to others.

 

With all these great qualities that clearly reflect the value-add that you bring to any relationship, why are you walking around feeling defeated and worthless? Why are you trying to prove your worth to someone else? For some reason, you have felt a need to prove your worth to the very ones who will never see it. Stop it!! Just stop it!! Attempting to prove your worth to someone who doesn’t see your value and doesn’t even know their own worth is worthless! The longer you put forth effort to prove your worth the more you lose your value.

 

The effort to prove your worth could be in a marital or dating relationship, among family members, friends, leaders and work colleagues, or even your church family members. Often times those close challenging relationships requiring you to always prove your worth, are based on the other person’s issues that they project on you. The transference of their own lack of self-worth. You have to know that IT IS NOT YOU and that you are worth your weight in gold!! It means you are in a toxic situation that may require you to make major change.  If that means it’s time to walk away, then walk away. It’s time to change your environment and surround yourself with people where your value is seen as golden. You don’t have to prove anything! Just be true to who you are and remember who you are daily.

      

Remember your worth and walk in your greatness, being all that you were designed to be!

Walk in your PESSCE Wholeness!


 

Earlier this month we shared with you the overview of PESSCE (peace) Unlimited, LLC, and the concept of The PESSCE Wholeness Model™ which includes Lifestyle and Leadership wholeness for women. In addition, we reviewed the specific details of one aspect of the model, PESSCE Leadership Wholeness. Today, we will review PESSCE Lifestyle Wholeness.

As mentioned in a previous post, PESSCE is an acronym pronounced “peace.” The first letter of the six areas of focus for life-style and leadership wholeness is what makes up the word PESSCE. The six areas of focus for lifestyle wholeness are referenced as Life-Streams. Life-Streams are the 6 areas of life that are most common to all individuals. The PESSCE Lifestyle includes:

Physical

Emotional

Spiritual (true Peace)

Social

Career

Economic (personal finance)

Demonstration of wholeness by exercising self-control choices in these six Life-Streams will result in greater PESSCE in one’s life. Peace is something most people often seek in their lives, but may not fully achieve because of a lack of PESSCE across the life-streams. The PESSCE™ approach encourages women who lack wholeness across the six areas, to seek their inner spiritual strength in order to make self-controlled life choices that should result in positive lifestyle changes.

When there is strain in any one of the six Life-Streams there will be a pull on the other areas as well. For example, you may often find yourself stressed for some reason economically (your finances) yet you feel the impact in your physical body. As a result of financial challenges, you may gain or lose weight; have headaches and migraines; display increased heart rate and elevated blood pressure; or there could be a number of other health related symptoms that you display. Because of this type of strain and impact that may occur across the Life-Streams, your overall life may reflect a lack of wholeness.

PESSCE Unlimited has designed the PESSCE Lifestyle Wholeness Model™ to offer a path to achieve lifestyle wholeness. The four-step process along with additional tools and resources will provide you with an easy to follow method to launch and complete your own personal journey to wholeness.

Your journey starts with you and can only be completed by you. It’s time for you to self-assess and put together your plan to achieve wholeness in your lifestyle. PESSCE Unlimited is here to help. Keep following us! All the tools you will need will be available soon.

 

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What is PESSCE Wholeness?

 

This week we will spend time explaining the work of PESSCE Unlimited and key components of the PESSCE Wholeness Model. The foundational approach for the work of PESSCE Unlimited, LLC, is the PESSCE Wholeness Model for Women which focuses on Life-Style and Leadership Wholeness. You can find more details at www.pessce.com and additional resources will be coming soon to help you achieve PESSCE Wholeness in your own life.

PESSCE Unlimited defines wholeness as:

The feeling and demonstration of completeness while walking in your own personal and professional freedom and truth.

Wholeness is not being perfect, however it is being complete. In order for you to achieve wholeness, you will first need to assess your current state. It’s time! It is now time for you to start being honest about yourself with yourself. When you can finally self-assess, reset and create a plan, make self-controlled life choices and improve professional performance, you will then be able to walk in your PESSCE Wholeness. You will know that you are walking in your own personal power from a place of freedom and truth because it will be from the work you put in to get there. We can provide you with coaching, consultation and resources. We can’t give you PESSCE Wholeness; you will have to do the work to get there yourself individually.

What is your truth? When you assess the depth of your personal life struggles and workplace challenges, you will likely discover that you are the root cause of most of what you deal with. Now, please don’t misinterpret what is being said here. How people treat you is important and they should be held accountable for any of their bad behaviors that negatively impact you or others. However, what I present to you is the thought that maybe, just maybe, if you are honest with yourself about yourself, you will express the truth of your own short-comings and personal baggage. You will begin to seek out the needed opportunities to make the necessary changes in your life personally and professionally once you take the first step of current state assessment.

As you get to know PESSCE Unlimited and the services offered, you will see the following six Life-Streams and six Leadership Competencies often referenced:

6 Life-Streams of Life-Style Wholeness:

Physical * Emotional * Spiritual * Social * Career * Economic

6 Competencies for Leadership Wholeness:

Precision * Engagement * Speed* Self-Assurance * Calmness * Excellence

We will share information to support your journey to PESSCE Wholeness through resources available at our online PESSCE Store (coming soon), Blog Posts, PESSCE Music, Consulting, Coaching and Events. Begin your journey today by understanding the basic components of the PESSCE Wholeness Model in our series of Overview Blogs this week. Then get in contact with us to establish your personal coaching or consultation plan!!

Your action for today: We want to hear your thoughts as we are behind the scenes swiftly crafting the PESSCE Wholeness services, tools and resources. Do you have PESSCE Wholeness across the 6 life-streams and 6 competencies? Or do you need a little help to get there? Let us hear your thoughts. Please like this Blog and add your comments below to begin the discussion.